Reply To: “My Husband Let’s Me Support Us and I’m No Longer Attracted to Him”

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Kate
November 28, 2023 at 5:54 am #1126869

… I think there’s been a “major betrayal” as they call it, on his part. For him to let you go to another country for FIVE YEARS with one of your children and not have found another job in all that time so you can live as a family again? Something is very wrong. He seems perfectly content to have you live two hours away and isn’t trying to remedy the situation? I could absolutely believe he’s been cheating for a long time, or, best case, has reverted back to teenage crap and enjoying the free ride.

What’s the solution? Tell him how you’re feeling and what you need him to do to change things. Set a timeline in your head for when you need to see progress. Be prepared to leave him. I think at this point your marriage has been broken for quite a while and you’re living on outdated love, “loyalty,” and desire to make it work, but not seeing the reality that it’s already over. You should talk to a counselor individually to get some perspective.