I’ve mentioned this before I’m sure but 35-ish years ago my mom sent out a letter to the fam saying “We get what we need, we mostly get what we want. Let’s stop adult gift giving and redirect that money to the charity of your choice.” Kids under 18 still got gifts. In college my mom would sneak something to me and my sister like a pair of knit gloves from Marshall’s. It has saved me so many headaches and stress.
I don’t know what I’d do if my SO still wanted to exchange gifts. I’d probably do like hfantods with a shared experience, a concert or something.
I was raised with in person and follow up thank you notes; I’ve only recently started getting thank you texts from younger relatives. I have decided to be generous and accept those as sufficient. I think it’s very big of me.