Im not a parent and probably am the last person to give advice on parenting stuff like what to give your children for Christmas. But im a high schooler and i remember when i was 12 or something that my mum tried the nicest ways to say no to my outrageous christmas wishlists lol. I’d say ur tween is just tryna indirectly tell you the stuff they’d like or wut they’re interested in. But it doesn’t mean that you go full Genie mode and give them everything they ask for. They’re old enuf to understand the value of money. One thing my mum did to help make this fun was to encourage me to buy things only during sales. This started when i was 13 and i know it sounds hella cheap but there’s just something different when u snag expensive, quality products at the price of peanuts during Black friday sale lmao.(yes, im asian and i bet the biggest flex during the holidays is how less u spent on gifts lol). Basically, being creative can really help teach your tweenagers to handle money effectively and also makes conversations like these go smoothly. The holidays are prolly the best time to do this. I don’t think you’ll have any problem figuring it out tho.
Good luck and enjoy ur holidays!