Reply To: “I’ve Lost all Desire for Physical Affection with my Partner of 10 Years”

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peggy
December 18, 2023 at 6:25 pm #1127154

You have been trying to make this work, likely for the better part of TEN! years. You have lost sexual desire, have let lots of issues and problems go, so as not to ruffle her feathers, distress her. She is not doing the same or working on herself and your relationship. You can not fix this. I doubt even counselling would help. This has run it’s course. You deserve a healthy, happy relationship and partner that includes a physical component.
As far as your concern that she will not accept a break up and will fall apart…oh well. She is responsible for herself and it sounds to me you have tried your best but this union is broken.
I just left a similar situation . I had given and tried and made excuses for them etc,etc. and they would not even have a discussion about any problems or they would promise to get help but never did. They have lots of health issues and I felt guilty and agonized over leaving, but I came to realize that it was their attitude toward their problems and the way they treated me ( terribly ) ,which meant I had to preserve my own mental and physical health.
I moved into my place 3 weeks ago and I feel amazing. I have not looked back. Rip off the bandage! This is your life, your choice.