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LisforLeslie
December 19, 2023 at 7:33 am #1127158

Here is the thing – their relationship may be fully platonic, but that doesn’t mean that she wants to share his time with anyone. We’ve seen the same behavior from two straight guys and two straight girls who are BFFs. She knows that if he starts dating someone (or whatever it is that you call it today) that he will be less available to her. You can’t tell her different. If the two of you are smooching it up, you don’t want her there and she doesn’t want to be there.

So you don’t need to become her best friend, but you do need to be friendly – which is what it sounds like you’re trying to do. But she knows that you’re making plans with her simply because you want to spend more time with him. If you weren’t interested in him, you wouldn’t be knocking on her door asking her to go and play. So ease off of trying to become her new bestie, your motives are more self serving than selfless and she knows it.