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I don’t understand why your most recent response is that you’re going to try to befriend the friend and spend time with her just the two of you. I’d cut the friend out of the process entirely. It’s great and smart that you want to stay safe, but it sounds like these are all classmates you know from high school, right? The guy you have a crush on is a known quantity, not some random dude you met on a sketchy dating site. And bringing a third person into the mix might give the impression that you’re interested in hanging out as friends.
This suggestion might get side eyed, but AOL Instant Messenger was really popular when I was in HS. In college, FB was brand new and at the time it was cool. You can use whatever technology kids your age use to help facilitate things like this if you want. With the caveat that the goal is not a prolonged online-only relationship, you’re trying to take things offline. I can think of a couple instances from HS and even college where I knew a guy from school, we’d message online briefly and exchange numbers if needed, and then let things take off IRL.