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Kate
December 22, 2023 at 10:42 am #1127226

Ok, this is worse than you think it is, and you should move on. There’s a bad dynamic here where it’s not just that you don’t have the same tastes, it’s that he’s “smarter,” more “logical,” and “sensible,” while you supposedly lack common sense, are naive, have bad taste in movies, and you’re “sensitive,” although it’s him who seems to have anger and screaming issues. Ugh, no thanks, this is bullshit.

I don’t think he respects you very much, and without respect, a relationship can’t survive. This is what you’re experiencing now. His lack of respect and the things he’s said to you and how he’s made you feel have added up over time and made you feel distant and no longer very attracted.

This relationship is on life support and it’s not coming back. You should break up with him. Just tell him you’re not feeling it anymore. The chemistry isn’t there. Then you can move out, move on, and meet someone you have all the elements of chemistry with. To understand what went wrong here, I recommend the book “Is He Mr Right?” By Mira Kirshenbaum.