Reply To: “I’ve Lost all Desire for Physical Affection with my Partner of 10 Years”

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Kate
December 22, 2023 at 11:57 am #1127227

So, what’s happened here is that you two don’t have the closeness and chemistry needed to maintain a healthy relationship and, as a result, the sex is gone. It won’t come back.

You admire her, think she’s beautiful and intelligent, but you don’t “get” her, and you say life with her is painful and really frustrating. Shared experiences aren’t enough. This relationship lacks understanding, trust (I think you said you believe she’s cheating on you?), and she seems to have a lot of mental health issues she’s not properly treating.

Just move on! You two don’t work as a couple. You’re staying with her out of a sense of obligation and probably longing for what you think is her potential. But you’re super unhappy. It’s more than okay to move on after 10 years when there’s no future here and the attraction has died. Tell her you’re not happy. You two aren’t working anymore. She’ll be okay or she won’t, but either way it’s not your fault.