Reply To: “My Boyfriend Keeps Failing His Classes, I Don’t Know What To Do”

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HeartsMum
December 26, 2023 at 5:54 pm #1127292

LW, you’re planning for a future with someone who even right now is not on the same page as you. Does your boyfriend know about this, about when you want to have children, or even move in together? If you have talked, and you believe you both are in agreement, then you have to see if his actions match his words. It’s not enough to have the same interests (e.g. I would like financial security), you have to have similar values (e.g. “I will apply my utmost effort to reach that goal” vs. “I will find someone who wants to bust their butt to make me secure.”) Does your boyfriend have financial responsibilities now, does he work, does he have any idea what role his education might prepare him for? If no, no, & no, he probably does not have enough incentive or motivation to meet the stated goals.