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It would not be shallow to leave him. You’re looking to be able to start a life with someone, and you want a partner. You two are not even close to being on the same page.
My boyfriend when I was 19 (he was a little older) kept failing his classes too. He just wanted to smoke weed and party. I did break up with him. At that point he was 22 and had flunked out of community college and could no longer get financial aid (his family was middle class, no money to spare, but too “affluent” I guess for any more aid).
So then he made this dramatic step of joining the military. I got back together with him and we got married. He swore he’d use the GI Bill to get a 4-year degree. He did not. He ended up earning a 2-year degree, a lot of which was just job experience credits. Ok but he got an incredibly good job with his military intelligence credentials (and he was actually a smart guy).
Well then long story short he ended up quitting that job because he wanted to smoke weed and party. I know, shocking. I divorced him. Guess what, he’s still smoking weed and partying and it’s 30 years later. And he works at a pizza place like he did when I met him when I was 17.
Anyway. Break up with him. If you apply yourself, it’s not that hard to pass your college classes. Something else is going on with him. He has other priorities like my ex did, and my little cousin who flunked out (partying, boys). He doesn’t care about the same things you do.