My therapist is actually a great one and she can only give me advice. Her advice had been to set boundaries and consequences and follow through. The consequence for the repeated behavior would be the end of the friendship. I thought it was enough to express my dislike of certain behaviors but I should’ve set the consequence as well. That was on me…
Yes, I would definitely want to know if my husband was acting inappropriately.
I don’t blame you for being perplexed. I don’t think it’s appropriate behavior at all and I definitely don’t enjoy it.
I don’t know why I’ve put up with it for so long. I think I’ve kept him as a friend because he has always been there when no one else has. I have realized that I struggle with standing up for myself and enforcing my boundaries. So that’s something I’ve been working on. I do realize that whether he is in my life or not I’ll be fine. Whether I’m alone or have others to rely on.