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LisforLeslie
January 10, 2024 at 8:38 am #1127562

Not sure why the woman aspect is bothering you so much. However I am definitely concerned that your mom is racing to move this person into your home before you or your sister have any time to get to know this person. That’s really fast.

I would have a discussion with your mom about boundaries and behaviors. Is there an expectation that this person is going to play second parent? Quite frankly, that would be outrageous given that you’re already 16. So having a discussion about your expectations, your mom’s expectations and this new person’s expectations is critical. You all need to be on the same page.

Also – and again this is gender neutral – what is your comfort level with displays of affection? I know that I would groan and make vomit noises when my mom and step dad would be affectionate, but that was teenage “ew parents are not human” and nothing more. They were always appropriate but were affectionate. There has to be some balance between making you feel uncomfortable and demanding they never touch or kiss. It can’t be all one way. So again, it’s a really uncomfortable conversation but because this is same sex if it’s not handled as a gender neutral topic it will be seen as homophobic.