Please quietly consult a lawyer. You are in an abusive relationship with your husband. That should be your first priority. Please get some help on getting out of this situation. Once you are gone, you will no longer be the deliverer of bad daddy news. Your daughter can deal with him on her own and they can yell at and abuse each other without you in the mix. It is unfortunate you stayed with this abuser who modeled how to act (aka now your daughter is abusive) and modeled what type of husband she should have (yeah an abuser), but now you need to put on your own oxygen mask and get out.