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So many red flags here, LW. LDRs are hard enough when everyone is actively trying to make them work by respecting each other’s time and also still making time for the relationship. Your guy isn’t respecting you or your time. Your life does not have to revolve him, he has no business knowing every time you leave the house and it’s ridiculous the level of manipulation and gaslighting he’s doing in an attempt to control you from afar. Please leave this relationship now, while it’s still long distance and you have lots of time and space in between you and him. You will be much happier with someone who (1) respects who you are as a person and doesn’t demand you change your personality to be with him; (2) trusts you; (3) respects that you have a life and friends and obligations and fun outside of him and does not harass you over that; and (4) respects basic boundaries like, oh, I don’t know, your ability to move about without an accountability partner as an adult. He will only get worse and if you ever end up living with him, this has isolating, controlling and potentially ultimately abusive behavior written all over it. Just get out now.