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This is just so horrifying. I’ve been sitting here for almost 10 minutes trying to think of what to say that might get through to you and I’m honestly at a loss. The level of manipulation, control, and gaslighting (making you think it’s your fault because you’re introverted) is just……it’s a lot. Does he tell you every time he goes somewhere, who he’s with, and what he’s doing? Why not?
You say that you know you’re not responsible for his insecurities but then you turn around and blame yourself and take responsibility for his actions “the only issue is that I can’t do it as quickly as he expected me to, I need time.”
You are not the problem.
You did not do anything wrong.
Do some online research about coercive control.