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golfer.gal
January 27, 2024 at 4:50 pm #1127884

Wanting to be a part of your everyday life when you’re in a long distance relationship sounds thoughtful and caring. Forcing you to account for your every movement, then accusing you of lying and threatening to not care about you anymore because you forgot to mention you went out with your mom does not fall into this category.

You say you talk all the time about living together and marriage, but how realistic is that really? From the outside this looks like someone who is using the fact that you don’t have a lot of connections and social support against you, because if you lose him you’ll lose a large source of connection in your life and he therefore knows you’ll put up with controlling bullshit. Getting jealous and accusing you of lying for something as simple as visiting a parent discourages you from going out with friends or other people. You can see that right? All the bullshit talk about getting married keeps you on the hook and putting up with this crap.

Kate is correct that it’s very, very likely he’s got other women, or a committed relationship, in his hometown. Even if this relationship was perfect in every way, how many more months or years should you invest in someone you’ll never, ever live with or even live close to? You need to distance yourself and invest that time into making more in-person connections in your local area