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HeartsMum
January 28, 2024 at 4:33 am #1127889

All these people giving solid advice, but you believe starting fresh isn’t the answer. Apart from all the other helpful points, I would say, have you spoken to anyone you ARE close to about your boyfriend’s issues?

Other than that, I think if your boyfriend wants to know all the details of who/where/what, and you want to participate in this, there is so much technology that could take the stress out of it for you. After all, a phone with tracking software can be left at home and your burner phone go with you. What about an ankle tracker such as prisoners use? Data plans are so much cheaper these days. He can set up a bodycam that you mount on your wrist facing you (check your employer is okay with that) and old smartphones in every room in your house can transmit updates to him anytime of day or night. That way, you don’t have to worry that you haven’t told him anything by mistake. [disclaimer: when you try to meet the demands in a coercive control situation, the person in charge moves the goalposts, so you will need to be ready for your every move and word to be subject to the continuing scrutiny, control and abuse you are seeking to submit yourself fully to now.]