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January 28, 2024 at 4:30 pm #1127908

“When I talk about being an introvert, I mean that I haven’t been able to develop good communication and social skills.”

What you are describing seems to be social anxiety, awkwardness, or discomfort, not introversion. Being an introvert has nothing to do with social skills or how garrulous you are. Introverts are not inherently bad communicators or socially awkward; they find social situations more draining and recharge alone. Extroverts are recharged through socialization and are not inherently outgoing or charming.

Are you staying with this man who lives far away because maybe you believe that your lack of communication and social skills make you unloveable or undateable to local men?

In any case, communication and social skills are just that — skills! You can practice them. I used to be very shy and awkward. I’m not anymore. You can join MeetUp groups. Sign up for a class/learn a new hobby. I started taking pottery classes several months ago, it’s mostly women and there’s a lot of low stakes chatter while we throw. Groups like Toastmasters are designed to help people build confidence through public speaking. I’ll bet if you build up your confidence, losing this guy won’t seem like such a loss.