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LisforLeslie
January 30, 2024 at 1:46 pm #1127938

If you’re mom is 92, then you are somewhere between 50 and mid-70s correct? So you have been dealing with her nonsense for a looooong time. Your mother knows how to push your buttons – she installed them right? So keeping her nonsense blocked off is for the best.

However, as for your partner… just about any person is going to have history of some sort. You know what your mom was going to do with that information – she sounds like a piece of work for sure, but people who don’t come from manipulative and untrustworthy parents aren’t disrespecting you for having or showing old photos. They don’t have the same protective behaviors because their parents / family don’t require it.

So is this guy still pining for his ex? I mean, one of my parents saved a copy of their wedding album (honestly, not sure which, I just know that over the years it appeared but I can’t remember if it was when my dad died or my mom moved) but they divorced when I was 5. I don’t think either of them wanted the book but one of them saved it for my sake. Is he holding on to those pictures for some reason? If he’s holding them for his kids or because it has pictures of long gone relatives… let it go – it’s not there to taunt you. It’s just there because it’s his history. If he’s keeping all of his mementos for posterity or whatever, have him put them in a box where they are difficult to access. Or a storage locker somewhere that you never see.