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Kate
January 30, 2024 at 8:10 pm #1127943

Anecdotally, I’m 48 and got married the first time so long ago that there weren’t any digital pics. I don’t have any on my phone, but I do have some albums that include a bunch of candids of the shower, rehearsal dinner, wedding, and our early years. There are people in these photos who are no longer alive. People who are much older now but are young in the pics. These are basically the only pics I have of *myself* in my early 20s. For the past several years they were in a box in a storage unit. My current husband and I visited the unit to grab things we wanted to keep before we would have it cleared out. I had to send him back to find my box of pictures. He knew what he was looking for and took a peek at some of them. He doesn’t think it’s weird or disrespectful or wrong that I want to keep them. I have no interest in ever being in contact with my ex although I wish him well and we split amicably.

Now if I busted these pics out (or pics of pics on my phone) in front of friends, that might be weird… or it might not, depending on the context. What was the context?

And I guess bigger issue, why are you marrying a man you feel doesn’t respect you?