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Lw
February 4, 2024 at 6:56 pm #1128007

Original letter writer here.

I just want to say a big thank you to everyone who posted on here.

I broke up with him, luckily he moved out without too much drama and didn’t need to involve police or anything like that… But the past few weeks have still been tough with him sending me, my family and my friends messages about how much he loves and misses me.

I relented over the weekend and met up with hmm for lunch. I think it was a mistake. He hadn’t made any steps towards any kind of counselling or therapy, but he did try very hard to persuade me back into bed with him.

It felt really wrong, I’m not sure why exactly but it just felt wrong that he was pressuring me like that. I didn’t give in tho.

Now I just feel worse all over again. I guess I really hoped he would have thought about things and would be sorry, but he hasn’t and he isn’t. He just “misses me”. I’ve had to go through cancelling the wedding, and knowing that people are gossiping, the financial losses from deposits paid, etc…. meanwhile he still went on his planned stag do with his friends!!! It just feels like he doesn’t care at all.

I’ve blocked him on everything now,even Strava, but it hurts. It really hurts. I just hope it stops hurting soon.