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LisforLeslie
February 5, 2024 at 9:56 am #1128014

Time to start setting some boundaries, your friend is stomping all over them right now.

First and foremost, if you want to make your notes available to people – put a copy of them somewhere, clearly labeled as “copy”. PDF them if you want them to be static. That way people can’t easily overwrite them.

In the labs, point your friend to the TA. That’s what the TA is for. You are not the TA. You have your own labs to do. Tell your friend she’s a competent adult (she’s not but really, what’s the point) and that if she has questions, she should use the appropriate resources to figure shit out because you don’t have the time or energy to hold her hand.

You are not responsible for your friends academic success, only your own. You have to put yourself first.

Lastly, some friendships were not meant to last. If you’re not getting anything out of this relationship, or if this relationship takes more than it gives, it’s ok to step back from it to focus on your own needs.