Grieving your mother night now, while you’re about to bring a child into the world and feel huge earth shattering changes in your life is a lot. …I grieved my life, my singular solitary existence when I had children. You may have PPD, nursing issues, hormonal blasts. You go through a lot. Friends change. I would really suggest speaking to someone about this sooner than later, and trying to figure out what you want. What kind of relationship do you want to have with your mother and her to have with your child? Is that realistic? Talk to your husband.