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Maria
February 13, 2024 at 4:24 am #1128142

Hey everyone, thank you so much for your messages. I’m sorry I’ve been super busy and haven’t replied to you all — it’s my first time on here and I’m not sure how to reply individually sorry. I have read and re-read all your advice and I really want to thank you all for it. I was feeling really really bad about the whole thing but you guys have made me feel better.

Also!!! I have a great update —- I do have a best friend who lives very very far away, so I understood why she couldn’t come. But, since hearing about my other friends she said she would come celebrate my birthday with me 🙂

I am so so happy!!! We are planning to just have a cosy night in 🙂 My mum also said she would buy us a nice meal to celebrate because of my friends not coming.

I know most people are of the opinion that my other friends are bad friends — which is fair based on the information given — but it’s really hard to explain. The points I said about them are 100% true, including the part about them being friendly, kind people. Hence my confusion about why they wouldn’t come. We have known each other my whole life and our families are very close. I don’t really know why they are against coming as they have gone to many other 18ths which I wasn’t invited to. But I’m going to stop thinking about it now all together and just look forward to a cosy night with my friend.

We still talk in person if I see them, but I am no longer making extensive efforts to reach out to them. I’ve found that when I spend hours upon hours trying to plan trips for us all it usually goes to waste so I’m not going to be doing that for them anymore. I hope I’ll stick to what I’m saying but only time will tell!

(Also is it weird if I stay on this site and reply to other peoples questions when I have the time? I’ve realised I’m younger than the people who’ve stated their age. But I really appreciate how lovely you all seem and I feel like that’s hard to come by in spaces created for young people. I’m probably not that experienced in a lot of these advice questions but I just won’t put my input into those.)