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LisforLeslie
February 16, 2024 at 3:04 pm #1128184

Is your daughter stressed because she doesn’t like to be the sounding board or because she’s worried that mom will say no and she’ll feel responsible for not saying something to partner?

Can you reassure her that she’s not responsible for partner’s success/failure in this venture. She is the child and is absolutely not responsible for an adults’ successes, failures, or their emotions about it.

Can you give her some phrases or ways to nip her mom’s bitch sessions in the bud? It doesn’t have to be long and drawn out – more “Mom, I’m 13. This is way above my paygrade.” or “Mom you need to get some girlfriends in for this.” or “I don’t know mom, I’m 13, my friends who are dating don’t have these problems. Maybe you need to talk to Aunt or Friend” or simply “I suppose I’ll understand this when I’m older.”