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Anonymousse
February 18, 2024 at 10:28 pm #1128214

You have to let your brain take the wheel here, and not your heart, who just wants this to magically change. I know it’s easier said than done, and believe me, I have taken breakups badly in the past and overreacted in dramatic and emotional way.

Be logical. You know it’s over. So every time you feel tempted to think about it, or him, or reminisce about all the lovely times throwing stuff at walls (I’m sorry for the joke about violence especially, but the relationship was NOT GOOD) and getting into fights, you need to use your self control and redirect your thoughts to something beneficial to your situation. If you have anger, therapy is a good place for that, too. I still don’t know if you were the violent one or if it’s your mom and ex. Pardon me if you have no issues with anger.

Get focused on school. After a breakup, I always loved dressing awesome everyday and faking it. A guy once said the best revenge is always looking good and happy, and it does feel good to stomp around campus looking boss and getting As.

I really hope you do reach out to someone in your life for help, and try some self care and distraction. Delete his number.