Reply To: Ended an Unhealthy Relationship and Having a Hard Time Letting Go
This read like LW is the violent one in the relationship, but it was a wall of text and not always clear. I do think therapy should be non-negotiable here. This strikes me as someone who has emotional issues (possibly stemming from what sounds like a chaotic family of origin) and became unhealthily attached to her boyfriend, which, coupled with being young/inexperienced, means she feels like she can’t let him go now that it’s ending.
The reason I brought up my ex was because he was not someone I planned or wanted to get over. I instigated the breakup but was not ready for it. This was the only breakup I’ve been through where I felt like the rug was entirely swept out from underneath me. Detaching when you’re not ready and don’t want to is really hard and sad. I had to get very angry to block and commit myself to moving forward, and like I said, it took me a few months to get there. I’m not sure what the equivalent is here. If the roles were reversed and a violent man was doing these things to a woman, she’d be documenting every interaction in case she needed to file for a restraining order.
Also? I was annoyed that my ex would do whatever weird shit he was doing to check my social media after I’d blocked him. Like bro, you’ve done enough damage – go away. I’d be outraged and creeped out if I blocked an ex and found they left me stuff they wanted me to see on my car.
