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LisforLeslie
February 27, 2024 at 7:19 am #1128324

I too am interested for details, but part of me thinks this sounds like a lot of work tbh. It’s going to sound counter-intuitive but for me, people who spend a lot of time focused on how they do others wrong and how others do them wrong are spending so much time looking for problems with the relationship that they aren’t actually enjoying the relationship. People have faults, people have boundaries. Determine if the faults are acceptable and where those faults cross boundaries (e.g. leaving wet towel on bed is a fault that could be a dealbreaker, physical violence / emotional abuse is a boundary that once crossed means the relationship is over).