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Anonymousse
February 28, 2024 at 1:03 pm #1128355

Best case he’s really grown and lovely, but it doesn’t sound like he’s gone into real therapy for whatever issues he had, and that book is alarming to me. If I saw that on a date’s shelf I would find a way to leave. It is a book about identifying abuse for women. It’s written for women, to my knowledge, not a guidebook for men to heal. Even if he’s working on it, he likely has remaining issues deep within with women.

Best case, he read that book and follows positive masculinity sites and has totally changed. From my experience, I think he’s probably got a lot of things to work out and I wouldn’t want to be the person working them out with him.

Bit your mileage varies. What seems like a huge red flag to me is just yellow to others.