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Kate
February 28, 2024 at 1:33 pm #1128356

His comment on the post about “why does he do that” said he realized how manipulative and controlling he has been / can be with women. Not “used to be in the past.” Sounds like maybe these forums and such are a recent interest for him? Idk. I think it would be a good sign if you DON’T see any problematic comments from him by doing a fairly cursory look into his socials, including Reddit and any of these healthy masculinity forums. If you see any concerning hot takes on women, that strongly indicates he hasn’t had the growth. That old roommate of my husband’s talks about love and light but when I look at his posts for entertainment, there’s a lot of spooky stuff there about “unhealed women” attacking him, and he cannot tolerate women disagreeing with him or seemingly even having an opinion that’s not his opinion.