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WonderingGirl
February 28, 2024 at 2:36 pm #1128359

You know, I should share the story of the little encounter that made me take a bit more interest in said dude in the first place. Maybe you guys will recognize clues I’m missing?

The other week, he invited our book club to a film screening. It was a tiny theater, with only ~10 other people there, but I was the only one from our club who showed up.

He asked if he could sit next to me, sat touching-arms close, then I scooted away a few minutes later. (I liked it, but I got nervous, lol.) Then throughout the film and discussion, he did casual touches at different interesting comments or whatever. Or when someone mentioned our event space, and he did encouraging “Hey, that’s you” elbow nudges, but very dramatically and comfortably. Nothing creepy, though.

Then I asked to walk together to my car since it was dark, and at the end he gives…a fist bump? It was confusing, because that gave me “I’m not interested” energy and I felt a tad disappointed. Thought I had an opening with a cute guy.

I am late bloomer who’s still learning these things. I don’t know if he’s just a touchy, extroverted guy or he had/has any genuine interest.