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Kate
February 28, 2024 at 2:56 pm #1128360

I don’t know, call me an asshole but it sounds manipulative! Like, he knows he can be manipulative, he said that. And he knows exactly what he’s doing when he sits right next to a woman and keeps touching her. He didn’t ask you if you were ok with being touched. Like hey, totally feel free to tell me if I’m annoying you. He knows what message he’s sending by touching you: that he’s physically interested. Yet he doesn’t bother to make sure you’re comfortable. And then he kind of “negs” you with the fist bump to keep you guessing. I mean, that last part at your car could just be him being conscious of making you feel safe, but why wasn’t he interested in your feeling of safety in the theater? You actually did feel uncomfortable enough to move away from him and it sounds like he didn’t pick up on that cue.

I don’t like it.