Reply To: I cannot tell if this is a green flag or the reddest flag ever.

To clarify, I stand by my advice in general, but not for Taco Tuesday. Not sure if that was clear. I do think an emotionally healthy person can go out with someone and suss out for themselves if the behavior exhibited is problematic. Someone who is still very unhealed may not, or may even be attracted to someone who feels familiar even if that familiarity is messed up. This is why we’ve asked you to be honest about who you are when you are posting, WonderingGirl/TacoTuesday, because it can change the advice given.

It is a little comical to me that you express concern about this guy possibly being too much of a work in progress in your first post when you yourself have major issues and trauma from your past that you have not dealt with. You have a lot to unpack and heal from. I do hope you will seek the help and support of a therapist. I don’t see how you will have healthy relationships until you do your own inner work.