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LisforLeslie
March 1, 2024 at 7:48 am #1128380

Taco, your meter is not calibrated properly because your dad is weird and abusive.

You need therapy – and I recommend someone who will work with you to help you establish your needs and boundaries and feel confident in setting and enforcing your boundaries. You need a therapist who can work with you to define your checklist of “is this abusive to me?” and be able to speak your truth. You can’t do this alone and you can’t do this with self-help books. You need reinforcement that your feelings are valid and you have options if/when your boundaries are crossed.