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March 11, 2024 at 6:28 am #1128475

When I was a kid, I saw my dad every other weekend. And while I was fine spending time with him and my step mom, sometimes I just wanted one on one time with my dad. When I was with the two of them, we were constrained by what she wanted to do, where she wanted to go, wanted to eat. And she got to see him every day. They worked together. They lived together. She got him 100% of the two weeks I wasn’t there.

So while I understand that you want his daughters to join hands and be happy family – that’s not what they want. Insisting that they invite you and make you feel welcome is the fastest way for you to alienate your step daughters and guarantee that they reduce their time with their father.

So you now get to decide whether you can be gracious and step back or be selfish. You don’t mention how old your kids are, but your husband likely spends more time with your kids than his own biological children. Allow him to give his kids some special attention. It’s infrequent as it is, so use that time to do your own thing.