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HeartsMum
March 15, 2024 at 8:03 am #1128504

“I would like to rekindle intimacy with my wife” might have gotten you some sympathetic advice. As it is, it sounds like you want to speak to the manager. A woman is not a paint by numbers workbook—the same thing might never work twice. But you’re unlikely to know, as you’re falling before the first hurdle. Leaving aside all your demands, assuming you want sex with your wife, I can tell you this:
1) treat her like she’s already enough for you
2) find out about and rebalance domestic roles
3) watch, listen & learn: what ever makes her feel sexy is what’s sexy for her—being trussed up like a turkey in fancy lingerie may not do it for her (but if you went shopping online with her or asked for a suggestion, that might)
4) Romance her again, with no expectation of any pay-off except possibly improving the relationship. Cook a meal, do thoughtful things, try to figure out what makes her tick
5) be patient; your wife may be perimenopausal or menopausal, which as well as affecting libido , is actually a major life change. Do all that and she might open up as never before.
Good luck.