Reply To: “I Expect More Sex From My Wife of 15 Years”

It’s always the man’s fault. Do more dishes, do more housework, don’t ask for sex, wait until she wants it, find out what she needs to feel good, be a therapist, be a romanticist, don’t expect sex, give her massages but don’t let it turn into sex, vacuum the floors, be an outstanding listener, don’t do or buy anything that could be perceived as sexual pressure, ask her what she’s thinking, buy only non-sexual gifts but very regularly, don’t ask her what she’s thinking, on and on, assume she has a headache, help more with the kids, give her time alone, etc. All of that just to get duty sex. Men need sex. It’s how they are wired. They don’t really ask for much more. If their wife introduces 100 requirements and policies and guardrails and stipulations, then they are going to get it someplace else. It’s that simple.