Reply To: problems with family member

Seems like she was in a one sided competition – she was competing with you but you had no idea. So I say put her on an information diet, the next time you see her and she asks all of these questions make it more vague and more positive. Drive her bananas by not being unhappy. Play that “that’s nice” game: Every time she tries to one up you or showcase how “better” her life is, just say “oh, that’s nice for you” or “I can see that makes you very happy” – it’s a positive response but there’s just the slightest tone of condescension that will linger. When she gets all “But I’m better than you!” all you say is “I’m glad your happy.” and don’t compete and don’t complain.

And in the meantime, if there are things you want to change – focus on that if you can.

But yeah, she’s an asshole – but that’s her problem, not yours.