Reply To: The one that got away?

Are you attracted to him now? I don’t think you explicitly said whether you were or not.

I don’t think whether he is or is not “the one that got away” matters or not. Why are you bringing this up, if you’re happily married with two kids? It’s something you can give attention to, and feed, or you can be a grown up and put out the feelings you have for a boy you knew a decade ago. You don’t even acknowledge each other in public now. You are not long lost loves, he is married.

Put this attention on your husband. What is wrong in your relationship? Are you happy? Do you need counseling?

I’ve been married for eleven years. I rarely find someone attractive in that way- and to me this hung you have in your head about this guy is a distraction from something. What is it?

See a therapist, don’t blow up your life for a crush on a guy you don’t even really know now.