Reply To: “How Should I Ask For a Paternity Test?”

*your husbands good mood, which TBH doesn’t sound that good to begin with. Make a relationship with her. Gain trust. Then try and ask for a test or prove to your entire family who the father is, or get weird and felonious, and obtain DNA on the sly without doing harm to the baby. *pretty sure you can’t do this legally without her permission, and that would risk your entire relationship.

How much is the blame against this girl into play vs actual facts? It sounds like she’s been through a lot, too. Why would she want to be involved with your family unless she needed to? Especially given how your husband thinks of her. I doubt he keeps his feelings to himself.

Please seek therapy or counsel from a minister or trusted friend. Your husband sounds very angry, which is his right, but it sound like he is blaming someone else your son left behind. Teenagers break up and down, all the time. Emotions are pretty dramatic ant that age, as I’m sure you are aware. Anyone would tell you that.

You won’t get the baby in your life by blaming her.