Reply To: My Partner Has A Habit Of Lying To Me

This sounds like you are a big part of the problem. As Wendy and others said, it’s not normal to “make” a partner do things like cut off contact with someone simply to please you. Are you insecure? Were you forceful about it? Are you intimidating, maybe? Do you have mood or temper problems? Are you generally bossy? You come across this way to me. “Making” them bend to your will and then coming here and accusing them of habitually lying is a bit wild. Sounds to me like they’re trying to appease you, not deceive you. I suggest you examine your own behaviour and the lens with how you view things. Maybe they don’t want to ‘upset’ you because you are unpleasant to be around when you are upset. So, they try and avoid it. I could be wrong, but you’re threatening to ‘walk’ and wondering if you should be the one giving your partner ‘one more chance’ to stop lying to you. Perhaps you should be asking whether you deserve the chance to stop making them feel like you’re going to be upset with them for being upset by your behaviour. They may be a conflict avoider and you may be very strong about getting what you want. This does not sound like it’s a good fit.