Reply To: “I’m in Triad Relationship and Don’t Know How to Get Out”

You’re not in any way a bad person. He’s manipulated you to feel like that. And to feel like he’s logical and you’re crazy. That’s absolutely a classic dynamic of abuse. And give me a fucking break “trying so hard,” look, that’s what abusers and alcoholics DO. They try to stop you from leaving by saying oh poor me, you’re hurting me, I’m trying so hard, look I stopped using, blah blah blah and then they go right back to their old ways but even worse. You have to read about abuse and its cycles. Get that book GG recommended if you have any privacy on your devices to read books without him knowing. Google abuse. Talk to a women’s organization. You may not think that’s necessary because he’s not hitting you, but that’s not true, that’s absolutely what they are there for. My aunt married an abusive guy and one of these places helped her make a plan to leave after only 3 months of marriage. Her brother came and got her and all her stuff while the husband was out. That’s how you have to do it, and you definitely need a lawyer too because of the kids.