Reply To: “I’m in Triad Relationship and Don’t Know How to Get Out”

Please do some research on gaslighting and DARVO. Kate and Daisy are exactly correct, this is classic abuse. Feeling crazy, guilty, and like you’re overreacting when your partner is calm and collected is a result of long term subtle, escalating, and intentional emotional abuse. He wants you to feel this way and he’s fully aware he’s making you feel this way.

Also, “trying so hard” would include you having access to a room with an actual, functional lock that he can’t control, acquiescing to your request for time apart and space, and treatment of his alcoholism through a rehab or reputable program. A good partner never, ever, ever has to tell you “you are not actually trapped here”.