Reply To: “Can I Ask My Massage Client What He Feels For Me?”

I wouldn’t do it. At least not as long as he’s your client. This man isn’t seeing you to get a date, he’s doing it to get a massage. Bringing your personal feelings into it crosses all sorts of professional boundaries. Plus, even if he is into you (and, frankly, none of that really sounds like he is to me, but I’m an Old Married Lady at this point, so what do I know), you don’t want to date a client. Even if it doesn’t break professional ethics rules, it’s just a recipe for a disaster. If you really must see what this guy feels for you, then the only way you can do it is to stop being his massage therapist and refer him to someone else. (And, honestly, if he’s not into you and you bring this up, he will probably find a new therapist anyway because he will be very uncomfortable in a massage setting with you after that.)