Reply To: My Partner Has A Habit Of Lying To Me

I can see that with both your mental health problems you are not well suited for each other. When you use the word “lie” you make it seem like someone is deliberately trying to deceive you. But it seems to me your boyfriend has problems articulating and expressing his feelings. I don’t really consider this lying. This is very common in people that have never had the opportunity to be heard or grew up in traumatic childhoods. He is not allowing himself to acknowledge his feelings or it take a while to process them that is why he is able to change his answer later.
If you were supportive and understanding and you knew what he was saying was different than how he felt. You might want to say. “John” it looks like you are not fine and probably upset. I want you to know it is okay to have other feelings other than “Fine” and if you want to share with me. I am here for you. That would create a safe environment for your boyfriend to start to open up. But you seem focused on seeing the worst in him and taking his lack of emotional communication personally. I would say. Break up with him because you both need other people who understand each other better.