Reply To: marriage and being ask for space

That doesn’t sound good that you almost never have your boys. Can you say more about that? Are you having them mostly stay with their mom because that’s what your wife wants?

My take on this is that you and your current wife both have some significant issues, both obviously have failed relationships, and moved too quickly here to get married and blend your families because you wanted it to work. You wanted to be in a functional relationship and family so you pushed it, but now the result of moving too fast is it’s falling apart. It does sound like her family and friends are telling her you’re not a good choice, and that truly you do have some things you need to work on. I think she has at least one foot out the door but tried to make it work to save face.

I agree you need to just keep living your life, focus on yourself and your boys, spend quality time with them, get your financial house in order, etc. Don’t do this back and forth on and off thing. It’s super unhealthy and bad for the kids. I’d just tell your wife that if she needs space you respect that, and she should do what she needs to do, but that this isn’t healthy and it’s not working.