Reply To: Baby Shower Advice

I think this was the little kick in the butt I needed to reevaluate things, so thank you all.

I can’t really disagree with anything anyone said, I think it was all valid points or accurate summaries.

As far as having a sip and see I didn’t even know that was a thing? I’ve only been to baby showers / that’s what was showing up online for me as well! So…I didn’t avoid that option, I didn’t know it existed. Which I wish I had posted something here back when all of this was beginning!

As far as not having friends able to plan the baby shower, one of my closest friends is dealing with her dad dying and another is dealing with a move and a new job, etc, so I felt like I’d be selfish to ask them to throw me a party when they have so much going on in their own lives.

Again, I think everyone’s comments were needed right now for a good reevaluation of my lack of boundaries and how I’m going to enforce boundaries in the future. I already know she’ll want to do her best to take over raising my child, my dad has also mentioned that would happen, and my partner is like ugh we’re going to have to avoid that because he also can foresee that happening. I have it in my head that “no that won’t happen, I won’t let it, I’ll have boundaries”, but if I haven’t even been able to have boundaries with something as stupid and trivial as this how am I actually going to have boundaries and enforce them? I have to really figure that out and work on it.

Also one of you mentioned me using this little thing as a way of avoiding bigger issues, and yeah, nail on head. It’s a little outlet for me to be upset about without having to think about the bigger things.