Reply To: Baby Shower Advice

Yeah, I’ll definitely be going over boundaries again with my therapist at the next appointment (thank you all for being my in-between unprofessional but useful therapy!). Note the word “again”, as it’s been a huge process for me over the past few years (I’m 25 now) trying to break free, gain independence, be my own person, etc. She lives 15 minutes away and that won’t be changing for the next year or two, my partner and I will be moving eventually but won’t initially due to the housing market being insane and figuring out what a baby is like financially as opposed to what we just assume / budget.

Also I do see it as a red flag with her, I just keep thinking to myself “I won’t let her do that, I’ll have boundaries and enforce them and she won’t be able to get her hooks into my child”. Good thoughts to have, but I clearly need to work on the application of boundaries before having this baby. Because I can have the right thoughts all I want but if I can’t have boundaries over a baby shower how do I see myself actually enforcing boundaries when I’m stressed out as a new mother with barely any sleep? It’s like I think I’ll go through labor and then suddenly I’ll magically have boundaries or something. Not really the reality, is it.

And I like the idea of writing everything down!