Reply To: Baby Shower Advice

I don’t think it sounds like you have broken free of your mother, have much independence or are your own person yet if this is a huge issue that’s still floating over you. I don’t see how it’s been addressed. If you thought moving out was addressing it…clearly that hasn’t worked. Your mother will do this for as long as you allow her to. I am actually feeling really sad that in what should be a really exciting time, preparing for the birth of your first baby- you’ll instead be having emotional discussions with your mother and learning how to enforce boundaries. I want you to imagine the rest of your life like this. Stop this shit now and have some actual freedom in your life. Your mother is an adult woman and can throw tantrums but I assure you, she can get over it, too. You need space to become the best new mother and wife and woman you can be without her bearing down on you. I truly wish you the best of luck.