Reply To: “Do Her Mixed Signals Mean She Wants Me Back?”
Soooo you have a history of getting angry with and having “poor responses” to her when she didn’t answer your questions to your liking, but still expected her to not break up with you in a way where she lets you down gently? That is literally the safest way to end things with someone who you fear may have a bad reaction to you breaking up with them. Do you really not see?
I was trying to be nice in my first response because getting dumped is hard, it really is. But honestly? Grow up, get over yourself. Hold yourself accountable for your behavior. It is ridiculous that you blame this woman for “driving” you to behavior you’re not proud of. (And I say this as someone who has done and said things in the past that she isn’t proud of, but instead of being like, wElL aCtUaLlY and pointing a finger at someone else for MY actions/words, I’ve owned it, felt shame, reflected, searched inward, learned, grown.)
Again, she literally ended things with you — that’s as clear as you can get that someone doesn’t want to date you anymore. If this woman wanted to date you, she’d be dating you. She has made clear she doesn’t want a relationship by saying so, dumping you, and then trying to ignore your texts. You need to accept that. You need to move on. You need to stop texting her — if she doesn’t already think you’re a creep, you’re heading in that direction FAST.
You also likely need therapy.
Also? VERY few people are narcissists in the clinical sense. I see a lot of armchair diagnoses online of real mental illnesses and think it’s super problematic. Not everyone has an insecure attachment style or personality disorder; some people just aren’t that into you and are behaving accordingly.
